An Open Letter from Gay Italian Priests*
Translated into English by William Hood
The recent Instruction from the Congregation for Catholic Education concerning the
criteria of vocational discernment for persons with homosexual tendencies urges us to
present some reflections relevant to that document. We address ourselves to our brothers
in the priesthood, to bishops and religious superiors, to men and women living under
vows, to men and women in society.
We are Catholic priests, secular and religious, with homosexual tendencies, and that fact
has not kept us from being good priests. Some of us have spent our lives as missionaries,
others as parish priests and pastors loved and admired by their people, still others live out
their priesthood teaching with dedication and professionalism.
Our homosexual tendency, as the document would have one believe, has not been an
impediment to leading a life in the sacred ministry that is animated by the gift of one's
whole self to the Church and by authentic pastoral charity (1). Our homosexuality does
not put us in a situation that gravely impairs appropriate relationships with men and
women, as the document states in the second paragraph: as men and priests we feel
wounded by this absolutely gratuitous assertion. We have no more serious problems than
heterosexuals do in living a chaste life, because homosexuality is not synonymous with
promiscuity nor with uncontrollable instincts: we are not sexually "sick" and our
homosexual tendency has not damaged either our psychological health (2) or our moral
and human gifts (3).
The document requires, as determining the candidate's suitability, that transitory
homosexual tendencies be brought to light and overcome three years before ordination to
the diaconate. Now for the majority of us priests the years in seminary were a time of
sexual serenity. In fact, meeting together on various occasions for retreats or spiritual
conferences, we have noticed that the disturbances, for heterosexuals and well as for
homosexuals, have come afterwards, caused not by sexual orientation but by loneliness,
the lack of friendship, the sense of being little loved and, sometimes, even abandoned by
our own superiors, colleagues, and communities. What is more, and speaking to our
particular situation, some of us have recognized our homosexuality only after ordination.
One has the sense that this document was born as a reaction to the cases of recently
uncovered pedophilia, mostly in the American and Brazilian churches: but homosexual
orientation is not absolutely synonymous with pedophilia.
One also has another impression: that people believe homosexuals are necessarily part of
a gay culture that is exhibitionistic, outrageous, lawless, promoting a philosophy of life
that often appears to many eyes as contrary to any moral law, in which everything is
permissible. Certain manifestations of the gay world are born as reactions to the years of
seclusion and persecution in which the homosexual world has been imprisoned, but the
whole gay world does not share such characteristics. In any case, not one of us behaves
outrageously or embraces a permissive hedonism in which no moral law exists.
The document would make it seem that the greatest problem for being a good priest is
sexual orientation, and the necessity to overcome a certain lifestyle that, in addition to
being unacceptable sexually, creates other scandals among the faithful: we refer to luxury,
to the love of money, to hegemonies of power, to isolation from the problems of ordinary
people. On the contrary, we consider our homosexualty as richness, because it helps us
share the emargination and suffering of many people: to paraphrase Saint Paul, we can be
everything to everyone, weak with the weak, emarginated with the emarginated.
Experience shows that our homosexual condition, lived in the light of the Gospel and
under the action of the Spirit, puts us in a condition to sustain and support our
homosexual brothers and sisters in their journey of faith, making real that pastoral care
that the Church acknowledges as necessary and desirable.
The very Church that has received the ministry of reconciliation (4) needs to reconcile itself
with homosexuality, which is a reality for many faithful people, sons and daughters of
God: men and women of good will who have the right to find a haven for their souls in the
Church.
Obviously, like all upright people, we cannot deny our fragility, which is a condition of
human nature: we carry the gift of God in earthen vessels (5), but our situation is not an
obstacle to being priests according to the heart of God.
Now, after the publication of this document, we experience great pain and discomfort, as
though our vocation had not been authentic. We feel ourselves abandoned sons and
unloved by that Church to which we have promised and given our fidelity and love. We
feel ourselves to be "little brothers" in a priesthood that we seem to have entered almost
by subterfuge.
(1) Cfr. Presbyterorum Ordinis, n. 14
(2) Cfr. C.I.C., can 1051
(3) Cfr. Pastores dabo vobis, n. 35
(4) Cfr. 2 Corinthians 5,18
(5) Cfr. 2 Corinthians 4,7
* The original version of this letter was published on December 18, 2005 on the Italian
Catholic website Adista (www.adistaonline.it).